When I find myself complaining I rephrase things like this:
I have to go to work. Let me rephrase that. I get to go to work. I have a job to feed my family with. I am not unemployed.
I have to get up early and take my kids to school. Translation: My kids live in a country where every kid has access to education. My kids know how to read, write, do math, and science, and so on.
I’m gaining weight. Let’s turn that around. I have food to eat, and can choose to have self discipline to eat well and exercise.
I have to get up too early. Translation: I am living another day, I can make it a good one, and have a positive attitude.
I’m sick, I have cold, and flu. Change the thought process to: I am healthy I just caught a bug, it will go away.
I have a flat tire, or need my car worked on. Translation: I have a car, I have transportation. I can always fix my car.
The energy bill is too high. I have heat in my house, and warm water. I have a job to pay for this heat. My kids will never sleep in a cold house.
My body is in pain: I can still use my body, walk, run, and exercise. I can always stretch and get a massage.
I have a tooth ache: I have access to dental care.
Be constructive with your complaints, and see what you can do about it, and always look on the bright side. This is a way to rewire your brain to choose positive thoughts, and helps prevent depression!
This is a good reminder for me to focus on the good things in life, and not the negative things in life, which contribute to depression. I am working on my mental health right now.
In light of Thanksgiving, there are many things to be thankful for, and there are things in life that are just negative. Bad things happen, bills are due, bad attitudes from others. There is plenty of situations in life that we can choose to let drag us down, if we let it. Rewire your brain and think of the good! Don’t let negativity effect you, instead think to yourself “What can I do to make this situation better”?
You only have one life, make it your best. Chose to have a positive perspective, and happiness will follow. Always look for the good, and look at obstacles as room for improvement, and think to yourself, “How can I react to this situation in a more constructive way”?
Everyday we choose our attitude, and how we react. Be positive, constructive, and firm. Assertive, not passive, so others walk all over you, and obviously not aggressive. Choose to view life with a positive lens.
There is plenty of bad things in life to focus on, but let’s focus on the good, and go far in life. <3
For the month of November, I’m going to list 30 things that I am great full for in my life. Being great full is good for your brain. Gratitude rewires our brains to think positively, and helps with depression.
Day 1: I’m thankful for my husband. <3 He is very kind hearted and sweet. He takes good care of me and my daughters. I was a stay at home Mom for 7 years, while he supported us. He takes the girls to school and picks them up after I work late at night, and doesn’t make me get up and take them when he is off. He will do anything I ask, and cooks for us. I am very blessed to have a great husband, with a nice disposition. No wonder we have been married for almost 16 years.
Day 2: I am thankful for my two daughters, that are 2 years and 9 months apart. They fill my heart with love, they make every day count. They have truly blessed my life. They are so sweet and funny. They each have their own strong personality.
Day 3: I love my parents so much. I am so grateful for them. They have been so supportive of me all my life. Both are so supportive emotionally, and my daddy is a handy man, he doesn’t have to, but he works on my house, like fix the furnace and put the swamp cooler in. He has installed new lights. They baby sit my kids, and without this I would not be able to afford day care. I will take care of my parents as they age, since I work in assisted living, I want what is best for them. I will definitely take care of them as they have taken care of me.
Day 4: I am thankful for my job. That I have a job to support my family. I am an caregiver for the elderly. It is very rewarding, and brings meaning to my life, but at the same time exhausting, and there ratio to caregiver to resident isn’t what it should be, it can be stressful. I am glad that God blessed me with this gift to have patients to care for the older population, and make their last days count.
Day 5: I am thankful for the friendships I have. I have fun with them, and I feel connected when I have someone I can relate to. Social support is wonderful. It’s nice to have someone to rely on. Friendship helps me be an emotionally stable person but obviously you cannot depend on other people to be happy. It is nice to have support.
Day 6: It’s 30 degrees out and drizzling. I’m freezing. I am thankful for the heater in the car, and the furnace in my house. Thankful for heat, and a job to pay the electricity bill.
Day 7: I fell today, so I am thankful for my massage chair. HAHA! Seriously I am, because it helps me with pain. My job as a caregiver gives me pain from improper lifting techniques, when I lift the elderly.
Day 8: I am thankful for my furbabies! My dogs that knocked me down yesterday! They are so fun and playful. They give me a good exercise, (they are my jogging buddies) keep me entertained and have protected my kids from someone that has tried to attack them. They fill my heart with love and offer companionship. I am thankful for my loving cats that purr at me and cuddle me in bed. They are so sweet and funny.
Day 9. I’m thankful for the ability to walk, and be physical because I have a friend that is a paraplegic, and I have taken care of a quadriplegic. I am very active and cannot have a sit down job. I feel depressed if I cannot get up and walk. I can’t even sit through a movie unless it is interesting, but it really has to catch my interest. I must have ADHD like my daughter.
Day 10: I’m thankful for my church community that supports me and uplifts me.
Day 11: I am thankful for my health. I am pretty healthy. My blood count and test are all normal. I only have asthma. Part of it is genetics, and I try to eat healthy and exercise. I take supplements, even though the doctor says they don’t help, but I don’t believe it. 🙂
Day 12: I am thankful for sleep. Sounds cheesy? Seriously, I love it because it refreshes me, and makes me feel recharged. After a long day of work, I love crawling in my comfortable bed.
Day 13: I’m thankful for the Internet. I can work from home, and spend more time with my family. I don’t like how addicting it is, but still.
Day 14: I’m thankful for youth group, it’s a good influence on my kids.
Day 15: I am thankful to live in Colorado. Born and raised. Colorado has a nice climate, beautiful weather, and the rocky mountains to ski and hike. It also has great hot springs to relax in.
Day 16: I’m going on vacation in – minus 2 days, and I cannot wait! I am thankful for vacation. I’m going to enjoy the wonderful state that I live in. I love vacation, I can get refreshed and recuperate, from my busy life, and demanding, stressful but rewarding job.
Day 17: I am thankful for exercise, (well, most of the time). I went swimming with the kids last night, at the local rec center. I had a lot of fun. I swam laps as well. I’m thankful for cardio. It makes my heart strong, and it makes me feel better. I like jogging as well, and pushing myself. I feel like I have accomplished something.
Day 18: I am thankful for serving others. I an employed as a caregiver, so I am constantly helping people that cannot help themselves. I used to volunteer at the homeless shelter, and the nursery, at the kids church.
Day 19: I am thankful for essential oils. I love lavender and how it relaxes me.
Day 20: I am thankful for massages and my massage chair. I love getting a massage. I feel human again. It is so relaxing. It eases my aches and pains. I feel 20 years younger afterward. I have a massage chair as well. My job hurts my body, I feel like I can keep going, if I go and lay in my massage chair.
Day 21: Thankful for reading and writing, and having the ability to do so. It is a great form of expression, and a great escape to a different world.
Day 22: I am thankful to live in America, and have access to water and food. Many people around the world, in third world countries, live without access to water, food, education, and sanitary living.
Day 23: Holidays! I love the holidays, because I get to spend time with my family.
Day 24: I am thankful for education. I am thankful that my Dad pushed me to go to College. I really expanded my mind in College, and went further in life. It was defiantly not wasted. Knowledge is power.
Day 25: Simplicity. Enjoying the simple things in life, especially when you live in a first world country. The breeze in the trees, the sunrise, and sunset, your kids laughter, the snowfall, the waves in the ocean, the flowers blooming in the Spring, the stars at night, the birds singing. Keeping life simple, and not having to be entertained by technology. Taking a walk in nature, refreshes the soul.
Day 26: I am thankful for DNA test, such as 23 & Me, because I found an adopted first cousin, and brought him together with his Mom, Dad, and the rest of the family. You can read my story about my adopted cousin here: https://www.michellescrazybusylife.net/index.php/2019/11/09/that-time-i-found-out-i-had-an-adopted-cousin-through-23-me-adoption-story-that-turned-out-fantastic/#.Xdl5D-hKiUk
Day 27: I am thankful for transportation, and always having a car. I can drive out of my way to take my daughters to better schools, for better education. I love being able to go where I want, when I want. Like the dog park, take the kids to the park, library and so on.
Day 28: I am thankful for music. I feel like it expresses my emotions and thoughts. Music is powerful. It can energize you or calm you down.
Day 29: I’m thankful that my Mom, and her Dad (my Grandpa) were farmers. I learned how to cook really well, and grow my own food!
Day 30: I am thankful for hot tubs. They are so relaxing. I like to soak my sore bones and muscles. I like to relax and forget about everything.
My list is done but I’d like to add one more thing that I’m grateful for: Tomorrow is open enrollment for the kids for school next year. I am grateful that I get to pick a better school for my kids to go to rather than them go to their neighborhood school.