Forgiveness sets you free. Free from anger and bitterness that is keeping you from living a fuller life. You can not live life to the fullest if you are weighed down by anger! Forgiveness stops the control that others have on you and your deep inner thoughts. It is a lot of work to be angry. When you realize that this person no longer can control you, and your thoughts because you are angry, this is where freedom comes. Forgiveness is where the saying “Don’t let people get the best of you”, comes into play. Think about it.
When you are angry at someone for what ever reason, you keep playing in your head what they did. This anger is unproductive, and is weight you down.
You cannot control what other people do, but you can control how you react. Do not be weighed down by grudges. You don’t carry a burden that is not mean for you to carry. You are not responsible for others actions, so don’t start taking responsibility for what they do. . You do not need to waste your time being angry and seeking revenge. This accomplishes nothing, and is a complete waste of time, while you could be doing something better.
Do not let the offence happen again, and don’t be quick to trust people. People are not perfect, and people are in fact going to hurt you. We are all human. We are selfish in our innate self. When we are angry we are using our primitive brain, not or evolved brain, which is higher functioning. We are better than this, and capable of more.
Have boundaries with people and be assertive. Assertiveness is standing up for your existence. Don’t apologize for being you. Do not let people walk all over you. Don’t take things to personally.
Set yourself free. Forgive those who have hurt you. Learn, and move on. Use every bad experience to learn from. Think about ways to apply boundaries to not let the offence happen again. Do not let the chains of anger hold you down, and move on to the next best thing. There is higher ground to be climbed in life, than this!
We can constantly improve. Do not let anger from past offenses keep you back. Forgiveness takes a huge weight off your shoulders. Do not give too much of yourself for people to hurt. You are worth more than this and can do better! There is always room for improvement, and there is always lessons to be learned!