Love your enemies.

Luke 6:27-36  “But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone strikes you on the cheek, turn to him the other also. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you.

If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even “sinners” love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even “sinners” do that. And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even “sinners” lend to “sinners”, expecting to be repaid in full. But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your  reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.”

Let’s dive into this powerful scripture:

When Jesus says “love” in this particular scripture, he is talking about “agape” love, which means love out of concern for others and is speaking on unselfish love. Love that doesn’t serve yourself. This love is a choice and an act of the will.  It is universal love or love for strangers.  Extending yourself for the sake of others. Not to be mixed with brotherly “phileo”, which means love between friends. Thus, this is where boundaries come in. You do not have to trust your enemy or love them as you would a friend.

Loving your enemies is having their best interest at heart, and praying for them. They probably need help most in some situations, if you think about it. Praying for them, and find ways to help them. They have rights and deserve respect too. We need God just as much as they do, and we are no better. We need Gods forgiveness just as much as they do.

People that offend may need love the most. God calls us to love, for He is love. Jesus was sent to seek out the lost and the broken. He calls us to do the same without being taken advantage of or falling victim. God loves everyone, but hates evil. You can show God’s love by forgiving and not letting these offences effect you. Pray for them in their trials. You can love them but not like their behavior.

When you have hate in your heart this causes bitterness. God desires something better for us. You cannot live an abundant life that Jesus has set out for us in bitterness. God calls us to a peaceful life, not a vengeful one.

By not acting the same way as those who have wronged you, makes you overcome, and be the “bigger person”. You are overcoming their offence. Being good to your enemies does not mean letting them treat you wrong by no means.  It means you have a boundary where this behavior does not effect you in a vengeful way. “Vengeance is mine thus saith the Lord”. Because God is just. Romans 12:19 We are merely human. You are a conqueror when you do not act vengeful, but rather act out of love. When Jesus says “turn the other cheek”, He is not talking about being a victim of assault, He is speaking on not taking revenge. Let’s be honest, when you take revenge, and act the same way, you are adding fuel to the fire, and going in a vicious circle. There is a better life than this. This accomplishes nothing.

Why does Jesus say “lend to your enemies”! This is where action comes into play. Our actions show if we really mean it. We are supposed to give as though we are giving to God, and meet specific needs. People are more important than money.

“Do to others as you would have them do to you”. Luke 6:31. I love this powerful scripture. Do not treat people how you would not want to be treated. This is a great moral for me. This is otherwise know as the golden rule. We are treating people the way we would want to be treated and not the way we think they should be treated. This is grace. Jesus has shown us grace by dying on the cross for us, to reconcile us with God.

What does Jesus mean when he says, “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you?” Luke 6:32 You show strong character when you choose to have agape love. You show God’s character. You show strength. Agape love does not seek repayment. God will reward us one day. Agape love is God’s character, and we are to be like Him.

Be merciful. God desires us to be like Him. God desires you to forgive since He forgave us. Love others and do not condemn them. Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” Luke 23:34 The people who put Jesus on the cross were ignorant of his accusations. God demonstrates his willingness to forgive sins, and his mercy.

Some other powerful scriptures.

The LORD is on my side; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me? Psalm 118:6 (God will protect you). 

He has overcome the word.  “You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world”. 1 John 4:4

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33.

Aim higher. God is greater than this world.

“Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.”

― William Shakespeare

 

The act of forgiveness.

Forgiveness sets you free. Free from anger and bitterness that is keeping you from living a fuller life. You can not live life to the fullest if you are weighed down by anger! Forgiveness stops the control that others have on you and your deep inner thoughts. It is a lot of work to be angry. When you realize that this person no longer can control you, and your thoughts because you are angry, this is where freedom comes. Forgiveness is where the saying “Don’t let people get the best of you”, comes into play. Think about it. 

When you are angry at someone for what ever reason, you keep playing in your head what they did. This anger is unproductive, and is weight you down. 

You cannot control what other people do, but you can control how you react. Do not be weighed down by grudges. You don’t carry a burden that is not mean for you to carry. You are not responsible for others actions, so don’t start taking responsibility for what they do. . You do not need to waste your time being angry and seeking revenge. This accomplishes nothing, and is a complete waste of time, while you could be doing something better. 

Do not let the offence happen again, and don’t be quick to trust people. People are not perfect, and people are in fact going to hurt you. We are all human. We are selfish in our innate self. When we are angry we are using our primitive brain, not or evolved brain, which is higher functioning. We are better than this, and capable of more. 

 Have boundaries with people and be assertive. Assertiveness is standing up for your existence. Don’t apologize for being you. Do not let people walk all over you. Don’t take things to personally. 

Set yourself free. Forgive those who have hurt you. Learn, and move on. Use every bad experience to learn from. Think about ways to apply boundaries to not let the offence happen again. Do not let the chains of anger hold you down, and move on to the next best thing. There is higher ground to be climbed in life, than this! 

We can constantly improve. Do not let anger from past offenses keep you back. Forgiveness takes a huge weight off your shoulders. Do not give too much of yourself for people to hurt. You are worth more than this and can do better! There is always room for improvement, and there is always lessons to be learned! 

How reading to your child is beneficial, and prepares them for adult life.

When my kids were little, I would go to the library and check out many books and read to them. I loved having the library as a free resource. I loved reading to my little children. It made us close, and we learned at the same time. It create a strong bond between us, and they still remember it.

It paid off as well. My first born is 92nd percentile in reading in her school district and 83rd in her state test. She is excelling in school. I am so proud.

You can even start reading to your child in the womb, at 30 weeks, and your infant will still reap benefits. This teaches your little one to begin to recognize speech patterns and start to develop language skills.

Here are the list of benefits of reading to your child age 0 to 12 years of age.

  • Reading to your infant teaches your baby phonics, and sparks language development. It also teaches them social skills and emotional awareness. It teaches baby about communication, how to listen, and begins their vocab awareness.
  • Toddlers: Jump starts their speech, and language development. It teaches them about the world around them. The first three years of child development are the most important. Reading to your toddler is very beneficial for their development. It may help them learn to communicate better, and have less tantrums!
  • Preschoolers: Reading to these little ones, expands their vocabulary, speech, teaches them to concentrate, and teaches them about the world around them. They feel close and secure to their caregiver who is reading to them. This intimacy helps them grow smarter. Reading to your preschooler sets a foundation for a positive attitude towards reading as they grow. When you read to your child, they will want to try to start reading on their own! This helps them get ready for school.
  • Reading to your school aged child. They will no doubt be taught these skills in school, but you can make it fun. This is beneficial for them. Reading helps them learn critical skills for making decisions, including coping mechanisms. They will need these skills in life later on! It helps them learn to concentrate, which is great for ADHD. My daughter was diagnosed with ADHD, but now she is excelling. Reading out loud to your child builds writing skills, and vocab skills. It teaches about emotions and creates a sense of empathy in your child. It helps your child better express their self verbally, which goes far in the real world when they are employed. It can spark new interests, and hobbies. It can help your child decide what to study in College, and be when they grow up. It helps your child learn right from wrong, because it builds thinking skills. Reading to your child builds lifelong readers.  Reading to your child is very beneficial. It gives your child a head start in life, and teaches them skills that benefit them in their adult life, such as making decisions and coping! Research proves reading to your child has long term benefits.

 

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What to do if you have periodontal disease, and how to maintain dental health.

Since I had my daughter I developed periodontal disease, which is where your gums receded. I was just so sick when I was pregnant with her. You can read that story here.

My dentist told me I had periodontal disease. Your gums receded at different levels.

  • Stage 1: is 1-2 millimeters of gum recession is gingivitis.
  • Stage 2: 4-5 millimeters of recession is early periodontal disease.
  • Stage 3 is your gums recede 6-7 millimeters. Which is moderate periodontist.
  • Stage 4 where your gums recede deeper than 7 millimeters is advance periodontal, where your gums infected, and you can have severe tooth pain.  You are also at risk for cancer, heart disease, and diabetes when you reach this stage.

I do not ever want to get to stage 4 or my gum recession to advance at all, so I really take care of my dental health. My gums are receded 2-4 millimeters, and I intend to hopefully keep it that way. You gums never grow back. Gum recession is irreversible. I need to maintain what gums I have.

How do I do this?

First I brush twice a day with, for at least two minutes, with Toothpaste for Enamel Strengthening in the morning and at night I use Gum Detoxify Deep Clean. I make sure I brush gently in circles so that I do not cause more recession.

Then I use mouth wash. I use one fluoride mouth wash, and I use one antiseptic mouth wash to kill the germs.

Then I use a water flosser which reaches more surfaces where dental floss cannot reach and kills bacteria.

Then I floss with regular floss. Flossing is good for your health and can prevent heart disease. I try to floss twice a day, but let’s be honest, we’re all busy, I don’t always have the time.

I use: GCA MI Paste , which has floride. Floride helps your enamel stay strong and prevents cavities.

I hate tooth pain, and I want to have good dental health. So this is my routine.

 

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Actions speak louder than words.

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Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.

Don’t let what you say and what you do be two different things.

Integrity is what you do when no one is looking.

Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do. _ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe.jpg

Apply what you know, and use your gifts and talents. Apply yourself.

Help people.

Always remember to have boundaries and balance. Do not wear yourself out! 🙂

Achieve more. You can achieve more than you think.

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My Daughter is an amazing artist.

Her drawings are incredible. She just amazes me. Her father and I cannot draw, but her Grandma, my Mom, is an amazing artist as well. I think she has a chance at being an artist. I have asked her if she wants to sell her art on Etsy someday.
Here drawings are below. She drew these two drawings at a young age of 10 and 12. I see great potential for her as an artist or even a graphic designer.
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Remember to make the most out of what you have.

“Life is not a matter of holding good cards, but of playing a poor hand well.” ~ Robert Louis Stevenson

I love this quote. This quote reminds me that I do not need perfect circumstances in order to achieve my dreams.

You don’t need a certain amount of money to be happy. You don’t need to have perfected skills to get that job, with time comes progress. Keep going, and you will get better.

Do not let things keep you back just because your circumstances aren’t as good as you’d like.  Take the first step. Think you don’t have time for school? Make time, and go part time.

Remember the days of the Great Depression in the 30’s? These people made the most out of what they had. I learned this because my Great Grandma lived until she was 97.

Don’t use excuses from the past. Just keep moving forward. Do not let anything get in your way!

Make the most of what you have now. Do not wait until you have that new car, have enough, or have enough time. You will run out of time with that kind of mindset.

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Don’t try to be perfect…

This leads to depression, and possibly giving up. With practice you will get better, and remember no one is perfect.

You don’t have to be perfect in order to achieve. Always be true to yourself, and be your best “you”.

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

― Howard Thurman

 

“The world needs who you were made to be”. Not a “fake you”, worried about being perfect or changing yourself because you are preoccupied with what others think of you. This doesn’t not matter and remember this quote:

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

― Bernard M. Baruch

Does it matter what people think? Especially if it is negative? Never alter yourself for other people. Have boundaries and live your life to the fullest and be the best “you”. Do your best and forget the rest.

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How to get rid of bed bugs by yourself, without spending thousands on an exterminator.

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A friend at work asked me if I wanted a queen size bed. I thought to myself, why not? Free is free. I could give it to my daughter. I ignorantly agreed and I trusted my friend, she is a hard worker, and she is a friend after all. Her and her husband dropped the bed off at my house, and I was happy that I provided my daughter with a new bed. I mean, this was very nice of her, or so I thought…

Fast forward two weeks later, I was so wrong. My poor daughter was covered in red bug bites that looked like mosquito bites. I told my husband, “I think we have bed bugs”. My husband said “No, it’s just mosquito bites”. I believe him, but looking back it’s embarrassing to admit that I didn’t put two and two together. Seriously? Anyway, I started getting the bites, and so did my other daughter. I was so itchy, it was worse than mosquito bites. Still didn’t catch on, but soon I would.

One day my daughter beings a black bug to me, with a circular body, she asks, “Mommy, what kind of bug is this”. Terrified, I finally had the revelation, WE HAVE BED BUGS. I cannot explain how repulsed I felt. I felt invaded in my own home, like these little intruders that are stealing my blood in exchange for itchy welts, that are driving me crazy. I felt attacked, like “How could this have happen to me and my family”? I clean the house every week. Then I thought to myself “Why, Michelle, would you except a used bed? I felt so bad for my kids, I felt like a bad Mom, but I just made a mistake that I learned from. I had good intentions by getting a “nice” bed for my first born. Never ever again!

Enough rambling, let’s get to the point. How I saved thousands, and got rid of them by myself, without paying an exterminator. I am embarrassing myself by sharing this experience to help someone that may have an infestation of bed bugs. I got on the web for hours and researched.

First off some facts about these horrifying invaders. They come out at night for a meal to feed on you. They like to live wherever you sleep. I found them in the curtains, couch and in the beds.

So what did I do first? I just started washing everyone’s bedding, and clothes. I also washing the bed bug infested curtains in hot water, and saw them try to escape for their life. You don’t have to do this but I got rid of everyone’s beds and got new one’s. You can save money by getting a Bed Bug Mattress Protector these darn critters will get stuck and have no where to go. Then I bought a Fabric Steamer. I used this about every other day on my new beds, curtains and I don’t recommend it, but I was a little OCD and used it on the carpet. After all I was having nightmares at night about these God forsaken creatures. Then I went around the baseboards. Might not be good for the wall, but I obviously didn’t care. Bed bugs hate the smell of cinnamon, so I bought a Essential Oil Diffuser, and a ton of Essential Oil. I used more than just cinnamon. I ran it all the time.

Then I bombed the house. I mean who wants to live in a bed bug infested house? I used Bed Bug Bomber. Word of caution. Read all the instructions or you can actually bomb your house! Unplug the refrigerator, washer, dryer, I unplugged everything. My husband blew out the pilot light in the furnace and the water heater.

The next day I just vacuumed, and then I let the chemicals sit so I wasn’t mixing anything, but keep the essential oils going.

A week later I sprayed the beds, curtains, baseboards, pretty much everything. Harris Bed Bug Killer. It’s odorless, which is good because I have asthma and doesn’t leave stains. Wear a respirator mask, gloves and long sleeves!!!!

Then I sprayed Diatomaceous Earth on and around the baseboards, put it under the bed, in the bed and on the couch. Finally something natural that isn’t full of chemicals. You still need a mask, DE is pretty dusty. I read DE is very effective in getting rid of insects. DE is fosilized powder that cuts the insects exoskeleton, and they dehydrate and die as a result, thank goodness.

Also, rubbing alcohol 91% kills bed bugs and their eggs. It dehydrates them as well. It is supposedly flammable, so be careful. I sprayed Rubbing Alcohol 91% on the beds, including the mattress, and box spring. I sprayed the curtains and carpet as well. I also used Bed Bug Aerosol weekly. I repeated the process after vacuuming up the DE monthly for six months. I don’t know about mixing all these chemicals, but we’re fine and like I mentioned, I have asthma.

It took about a month and I was bed bug free!!!

I hope I have helped someone that is stuck with these blood sucking creatures. I truly hate them….. Then the next summer, I got cockroaches. 😭 To be continued…

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How to get rid of cockroaches without spending thousands on an exterminator.

How I got rid of my worst nightmare. So disgusting. This summer, I saw a bunch of bugs on the kitchen counter, I thought to myself… What are those? Then I kept seeing them. They were scary looking. Then I told my husband, “OMG, we have cockroaches”. He didn’t believe me. He is from Florida. He was like we don’t get cockroaches out here like we do in Florida. Absolutely disgusting.

How did I get them? I live in a Townhouse. We’re they from the neighbors? We’re they from a cardboard box? We had a pipe leaking water, I read that this can cause cockroaches to invade your house. Where ever they came from, they needed to leave, and never come back, and I was going to be sure of that. I hate bugs, especially cockroaches. I was mortified. I wanted to stay with my parents.

The year before, I successfully got rid of bed bugs. I researched on the web on how to get rid of them. I cleaned my house thoroughly with bleach. This suckers carry e coli, disease, and nasty germs in general, since they crawl around everywhere, like the trash and the sewer, and so on. They breed and they lay eggs fast. Just like bed bugs, you gotta be on top of it, and kill them and their eggs. I could not have roaches crawling on the counters and getting my kids sick. So repulsive. I would have nightmares at night.

So, after I cleaned my house, I bombed it, fumigated it. When you bug bomb your house, read the instructions thoroughly. You need to blow out the furnace pilot light and water heater pilot light, and unplug all your appliances. I had my husband do all this. I used: Cockroach fogger. You leave the house for three hours, take the pets out, all living things, return 3 hours later, and air your house out. Then I sprayed the house. I sprayed the baseboards, the walls, under the sinks, under the toilet, in dark places, and the crawl space.

You also need to spray outside. I sprayed the whole exterior of the house, 6 inches up from the ground. I used: Ortho Home Defense. This spray doesn’t have a nasty odor, or bother my asthma. The other sprays do. Then we put out combat roach bait The roaches eat it, and take it to their nest. Roaches eat dead roaches so this is really effective. Then we put out roach gel my friend from Texas recommended this. Then we put out diatomaceous earth This is fossilized powder that cuts their exoskeleton and dehydrates them and they die! This is awesome for getting rid of all bugs. It comes with a sprayer. You spray it around the baseboards, I put some on the counters since it is food grade and safe. They also sell it at the health food store for consumption but it has to be food grade. I clean it up with a broom and reapply in 3 months. I also used an ultrasonic plug in that emits sound waves to keep bugs away!

They are not allowed back ever! Essential oils! We have a diffuser. They hate the smell of peppermint. You can also put peppermint essential oil on the counters to keep them away. They also hate lemongrass, and citrus. You can also mix baking soda, flour, sugar, and borax laundry detergent. They will be attracted to the flour and sugar, eat it and die. Put it on the floor, along with the DE. I haven’t seen any cockroaches in a long time. I am going to keep spraying the bug spray at least once a week with my weekly cleaning. I also spray with other cockroach sprays I will not have this happen ever again. There you have it. Michelle the exterminator. I should get a job as an exterminator. HA! Don’t think so.


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