The act of forgiveness.

Forgiveness sets you free. Free from anger and bitterness that is keeping you from living a fuller life. You can not live life to the fullest if you are weighed down by anger! Forgiveness stops the control that others have on you and your deep inner thoughts. It is a lot of work to be angry. When you realize that this person no longer can control you, and your thoughts because you are angry, this is where freedom comes. Forgiveness is where the saying “Don’t let people get the best of you”, comes into play. Think about it. 

When you are angry at someone for what ever reason, you keep playing in your head what they did. This anger is unproductive, and is weight you down. 

You cannot control what other people do, but you can control how you react. Do not be weighed down by grudges. You don’t carry a burden that is not mean for you to carry. You are not responsible for others actions, so don’t start taking responsibility for what they do. . You do not need to waste your time being angry and seeking revenge. This accomplishes nothing, and is a complete waste of time, while you could be doing something better. 

Do not let the offence happen again, and don’t be quick to trust people. People are not perfect, and people are in fact going to hurt you. We are all human. We are selfish in our innate self. When we are angry we are using our primitive brain, not or evolved brain, which is higher functioning. We are better than this, and capable of more. 

 Have boundaries with people and be assertive. Assertiveness is standing up for your existence. Don’t apologize for being you. Do not let people walk all over you. Don’t take things to personally. 

Set yourself free. Forgive those who have hurt you. Learn, and move on. Use every bad experience to learn from. Think about ways to apply boundaries to not let the offence happen again. Do not let the chains of anger hold you down, and move on to the next best thing. There is higher ground to be climbed in life, than this! 

We can constantly improve. Do not let anger from past offenses keep you back. Forgiveness takes a huge weight off your shoulders. Do not give too much of yourself for people to hurt. You are worth more than this and can do better! There is always room for improvement, and there is always lessons to be learned! 

10 thoughts on “The act of forgiveness.”

  1. I, too, have learned the power and freedom of forgiveness. It took me 47 years. I guess I’m stubborn. But once I let it all go, I felt amazing and it actually changed my relationship with the person for the better.

  2. Yernasia Quorelios

    ♡ Forgiveness is a release EveryOne; doesn’t necessarily mean that person is welcome in your anymore

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    ON GETTING PISSED OFF WITH THE BEHAVIOURS OF THE BELOVEDS; SO CALLED LOVED ONES, BEING OUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS

    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

    ◇ So You Ask SomeOne Nicely to Change Their Behaviour and Get An OK…then The Next Day You Rage, Rashly, Resentfully; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that Changing Behaviour DOESN’T!!! Happen OverNight, Changes of Habits Take Linear Time and Tough, Total Tolerance…so, maybe You NEED!!! to Change Your Perspective, Behaviours and Habits; maybe 🤔 ?

    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

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    ON 3DLIVING

    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

    ◇ Rhyming

    ♡ Womb
    ♤ SOMB (Soul Observer Mind Body)
    ♧ Clubbing – Tomb – Clubbing

    …this rhyme is The Story of 3DLife, it is Entirely Possible and Voluntary to Raise Vibration to a Level that Halts Ageing; a Vibration that even Reverses Age, essentially there ARE Two Homes that We Have…the InSide of Us, Internal Home, SOMB, that We Carry ALL Around with Us and an External Home Space that We Pay for with Money then Interior Decorate, Purchase Consumables plus Other Activities to Make Our Own Home in that Space

    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

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    ON QUANTUM ‘THEORY’

    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

    ◇ There is Only One Thing Certain; being UnCertainty, the Only Constant Being Change…so THOUGHTS!!! EveryOne; let Me Begin with “’til death do us part” ergo, I AM Very Happily Divorced, hmmm 🤔 ?

    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

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    ON ‘ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS’

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    ◇ You can imagine that as a Writer this is one of those Contradictory Statements that Really Pisses Me Off; really, using “words” to say that “words” don’t matter, le sigh…it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that I Have Reduced People to Rage then Tears with My Sharp Edged Cutting Tongue…here ARE a Few ‘Magical Actions’ that ARE Often Taken for Granted with Next to No Given Appreciation and Gratitude because The Action is NOT LOUD ENOUGH!!! until The UnAppreciated Person Explodes with Explosive Expletives <- "words":

    ♤ Meals On The Table
    ♤ Laundry Ironed Then Folded
    ♤ Tidying And Cleaning Up
    ♤ Remembering Significant Anniversaries
    ♤ Lending A Listening Ear
    ♤ Always Being There

    Here ARE A Few Words that HURT!!! Badly

    ♧ Clubbing – Dumb – Clubbing
    ♧ Clubbing – Idiot – Clubbing
    ♧ Clubbing – Stupid – Clubbing
    ♧ Clubbing – Bitch – Clubbing
    ♧ Clubbing – Stinky – Clubbing
    ♧ Clubbing – Dickhead – Clubbing

    …it's Crystal Clear Clarity that Domestic Physical Abuse is a Silent Action behind Closed Doors and the Pain from Psychological Abuse may be taken to The Grave; so, do You still THINK!!! "Actions Speak Louder Than Words" 🤔 ?…

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  3. Psychological research verifies the power of forgiveness. In one study, when dwelling on their grudges, people showed anger, anxiety, sadness, and felt less in control of their emotions. When imagining comments geared to forgiveness, however, people were more relaxed, understanding, and felt much better about being able to control their emotions. Holding a grudge over a long period of time can stress and weaken your body. At worst this strain could negatively affect your immune system and contribute to health problems. At best, you become vulnerable to episodes of anger and other negative emotions.

    Another finding is that forgiveness does not have to be face-to-face; just rehearsing it does the trick. That student who spread bad rumors about you in high school is someone you will hate for the rest of your life. But doing so has negative effects. To counteract those effects, you don’t have to meet with that student and say all is forgiven. Just imagine how you would do it, and then go on with your life. Forgive (in your mind, at least) is not only good advice, but it’s easy to do.

    You can also try this technique with current antagonists. Having a conflict or disagreement with someone causes most people to dwell on the confrontation and imagine what they should have said to win an argument or to put a bully down. Unfortunately, they didn’t say those clever things in real time, so dwelling on the episode after it’s over produces frustration and anxiety about a next meeting.

    Psychologists suggest that instead of fantasizing about things that could have been said, why not imagine saying something like, “You know, this is not worth getting all worked up about. I think both of us have some valid points, so why don’t we just agree to disagree and work together?” Just imagining taking the high road can be relaxing and increases the odds of making such forgiving comments the next time. Forgiveness recognizes “It’s not all about me; others count, too.”

    psychologyandstressblog.com

  4. Two monks were on a pilgrimage to a holy city, when they came to a river they needed to wade across a woman was there and terrified of the ford. The elder monk offered to carry her across on his back even though the vows of their order forbade ever touching a woman. They all crossed together, the elder with the woman on his back and the younger alongside obviously dismayed and puzzled. After crossing they parted cordially and the two monks carried on in silence for many miles. Finally, the young monk, exasperated, say “I can’t believe you broke your vow, and let that woman touch you!” The elder monk smiled and said “I put her down miles back, yet you have been carrying her all this way “

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