When I find myself complaining I rephrase things like this:
- I have to go to work. Let me rephrase that. I get to go to work. I have a job to feed my family with. I am not unemployed.
- I have to get up early and take my kids to school. Translation: My kids live in a country where every kid has access to education. My kids know how to read, write, do math, and science, and so on.
- I’m gaining weight. Let’s turn that around. I have food to eat, and can choose to have self discipline to eat well and exercise.
- I have to get up too early. Translation: I am living another day, I can make it a good one, and have a positive attitude.
- I’m sick, I have cold, and flu. Change the thought process to: I am healthy I just caught a bug, it will go away.
- I have a flat tire, or need my car worked on. Translation: I have a car, I have transportation. I can always fix my car.
- The energy bill is too high. I have heat in my house, and warm water. I have a job to pay for this heat. My kids will never sleep in a cold house.
- My body is in pain: I can still use my body, walk, run, and exercise. I can always stretch and get a massage.
- I have a tooth ache: I have access to dental care.
Be constructive with your complaints, and see what you can do about it, and always look on the bright side. This is a way to rewire your brain to choose positive thoughts, and helps prevent depression!
Cheers to a happier life!